Dear
friends, there is a well known saying-OUR
BODY IS THE ABODE OF GOD.
Learned sages throughout the ages have sought answers to the
existential question embedded deep within human psyche.
How
profoundly deep and loving is God’s hand, seen within and without.
Who can deny acknowledging his presence all around us?
MINOR
CHIP IN THE ARMOUR
This
abode of God, our own bodies, dear friends sometimes causes a lot of
distress. The love and care that God shows us in the subtle play of
human emotions, becomes a hindrance. We yearn to love; we yearn to be
loved. We yearn to have love and joy in our lives. We yearn to hold
our deepest expression of love, our kids, in our arms. Yet something
pulls us back. Something rises deep within us and we feel so
helpless. Unable to bring forth our desires upfront, we suffer in
painful silence.
Dear
friends, our immediate surroundings, our cultural legacies mould our
psyche. Small fears and small inhibitions, keep on piling up. Slowly
they attain gigantic proportions. And we feel so helpless and
defenceless against those torrid emotions that pour forth.
What
is it that pulls and drags us back into this chasm of gloom? Does it
even have a scientific name? Can we ever go and get help for our
miseries? Is there anyone who would listen to our woes with sympathy?
LIGHT
AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL
Dear
friends, you are not the only one who is suffering in silence. There
are so many others like you, who having suffered for so long, decided
to act. You too can do it. You too can overpower all your negative
emotions.
- VAGINISMUS
Yes,
my dear friends, our problem has a scientific name. It identifies our
problem in a very broad generalised manner. It covers the physical
aspect in a tight nutshell.
Vaginismus is defined as recurrent or persistent involuntary spasm of
the musculature of the outer third of the vagina, which interferes
with coitus and causes distress and interpersonal difficulty.
- INCOMPLETE PICTURE
But
the human body is not all brick and mortar, like the houses that we
build. All our problems cannot be only physical in nature. A very big
chunk of our problems have a deep-rooted psychological aspect too.
This
leads to a gradual build-up of pain, anger and resentment between a
couple. A family without kids is like a barren theatre of life.
WHO WILL UNDERSTAND THAT?
The
trained counsellors are there to listen to all your problems.
Not in a perfunctory manner. Not unsympathetically. Not
judgementally. They are there as your friend
in need.
They
don’t censure you. They don’t chide you. They don’t ridicule
you. They don’t laugh at you.
- IS THERE REALLY A WAY OUT?
Yes, my dear friend, there
indeed is a way out of our miseries. We have to come forward to seek
help from the counsellors. All our fears and inhibitions have a base
and origin in our own past. We have to open up and discuss all our
negative emotions, truthfully with the counsellors. These trained
counsellors always know how to help us out.
- ARE THE EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL STATE INTERLINKED?
In order to complete our
family and have children, physical intimacy cannot be avoided. That
is the way God and Nature, has designed and programmed our survival.
When the doctor finds no physical defects in our reproductive organs,
then the only reason one is unable to conceive, lies in our mental
and emotional state of mind. It is for this very reason, we need to
open up and discuss all our psychological issues with the
counsellors.
- DOES IT LEAD TO A POSITIVE OUTCOME?
A family is a union of two
individuals. Here collective action culminates in a state of harmony.
Likewise the couples have to fight the psychological issues jointly.
It is very imperative that the man understands the emotional problem
of the women , so that the counsellor can work out the best solution
for them.
Whatever is the diagnosis
given; whatever is the medication/therapy prescribed: a sensitive
sympathetic supportive partner is the key-solution to the mental
blockage faced by the women.
- WHERE TO GO FOR HELP?
It is here, at KJIVF
CENTER, where you will get all the help and support that you need.
The very efficient and highly
trained counsellors are not robots or magician .They are human beings
like you and me. With their personal touch and motivation, they are
forever eager and ready to help you out. So friends reach out to them
with all your problems, without doubt or fear crippling you.
